This past Friday night, my husband and I gathered with a group of friends and neighbours in front of another neighbour's house, each of us lifting a glass of champagne.

The occasion? To help mark the graduation of our neighbour's daughter, whose physical, in-person graduation is, at a minimum, on hold. She donned a borrowed cap and gown, “Pomp and Circumstance” played, and we toasted and shouted well wishes to the accomplished, lovely young woman we’ve known since she was just a little girl.

Was this what our sweet neighbour envisioned when she thought about the end of her college career? I didn’t ask her, but I’m guessing not. In addition to missing out on a proper graduation, she has also spent the last few months of her college years at home, studying, taking her last finals, and keeping up with friends via Zoom. For those of us who remember the bacchanalia that marked the final days and weeks of our college careers, it doesn't compare.

And that’s not even the worst of it. In addition to getting cheated out of a special time, new grads will be heading out into one of the toughest job markets in a generation. Meanwhile, many new grads are shouldering significant debt.

Against this challenging backdrop, new grads in your life will almost certainly benefit from any efforts to help them begin the rest of their lives on solid financial footing. That can mean cold hard cash, of course, but it may also mean imparting a bit of your own financial wisdom. You most certainly have your own bits of advice to dispense, borne out of your own experiences. To help get you warmed up, here are some key bits of financial advice to consider.

Step away from that comparison

Perhaps it will be different for the current crop of new grads, but my recollection of the years after college is that a certain competitive spirit prevailed among my peers. More than at any other time before that or since, I remember feeling especially attuned to who had landed the most lucrative job, who purchased a home first, and so on. In hindsight, those comparisons weren't predictive: My peers who got off to a fast start didn't universally end up ahead. And in any case, comparing ourselves to our peers--or worse yet, people we think are doing better than us--isn't helpful to our own financial well-being, according to research prepared by Morningstar behavioural economist Sarah Newcomb.

Following a survey of several hundred people, she and her team concluded that "Frequent, upward comparisons … were associated with higher financial stress, lower satisfaction, lower savings and overall more negative feelings about one's own financial life." Instead, the research concluded that the survey respondents with a financial role model (rather than those who engaged in peer benchmarking) were more likely to feel confident about their ability to meet their financial goals. Thus, one of the best gifts you can give a new grad is to discuss how you got past the comparative rat race. As Chicago Tribune columnist Mary Schmich famously wrote, “The race is long and, in the end, it’s only with yourself.”

Always have a safety net

Amid the current crisis, many new grads have a safety net: the opportunity to live with family as they try to find their footing with their careers and the rest of their lives. But no matter what, the pandemic serves as a great teaching tool on the importance of minding the downside. Even if new grads feel invincible, remind them that they need to insure against bad outcomes by purchasing health and disability insurance as their needs dictate. And at every life stage it's crucial to build at least a small financial cushion to cover unanticipated expenses. The common rule of thumb is that you should have three to six months' worth of living expenses set aside in ultrasafe investments like an online savings account, but that figure can seem hopelessly daunting to young people who are just starting out. Emphasise to your new grad that the emergency fund is meant to cover very basic expenses: housing costs, insurance expenses, utilities, and food. From that standpoint, amassing a cash cushion looks a lot more manageable.

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Let ROI light the way

We all encounter duelling financial priorities throughout our lives, so it can be worthwhile to educate your new grad about how to balance among them, and the virtues of multitasking. One of the first big financial trade-offs many new graduates encounter is whether to pay down student debt or get their money working in the market once they begin earning money. While it might be tempting to focus on vanquishing the debt and then move on to retirement savings, in most instances it’s wise to do some of both. Servicing debt isn’t optional, of course, and the return on debt paydown is guaranteed, whereas investing in the market isn’t guaranteed. With a new grad's long-time horizon, however, assets invested in stocks within a retirement fund have one of the highest potential long-term returns of any possible capital allocation. Return on investment can be a valuable compass for multitaskers throughout their financial lives, helping them identify the best uses of their capital at any given point in time.

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Get started on long-term investing (even if you're starting small)

In a related vein, new grads might be surprised at just how little it takes to get started in investing—and how much those early investments can add up. A $1,000 initial investment (graduation gifts!) with additional $100 investments each month for 40 years, earning a not-unreasonable 7 per cent rate of return, would add up to $280,000. A check in whatever size you choose and some information on the power of compounding make for a graduation gift that keeps on giving.

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Play a long game

Even as you want to underscore the merits of getting started in investing for long-term goals, it's also wise to set expectations. Stocks have been running up for the better part of a decade, but it's realistic to assume that returns over the next decade might not be as robust, and the volatility they’ve been experiencing so far in 2020 could persist into the years ahead. If you're evangelising about the merits of stocks, be sure to discuss the importance of sitting tight or even adding more during the downswings. And if you've come up with your own strategy for coping with market volatility, whether it's not checking your balance or taking a walk, share it with your new grad who's just getting started.

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Invest in human capital before life gets complicated

Many new college grads may reasonably be hesitant to invest in further education right now, given the uncertain economic environment. But as much as new grads might enjoy the respite from homework and tests that comes along with finishing college, remind them that one of the best investments they'll ever make is in their own human capital—their lifetime earnings power. And just like investing in the market, the earlier they make additional investments in human capital and additional education, the more it's likely pay off. Additional education needn't entail advance degrees and/or hundreds of thousands dollars, either: Pursuing certifications and earning designations can lead to salary increases, too.
It's also worth noting that from a practical standpoint, many new grads are relatively unburdened with family and other obligations in their early and mid-20s, making it an ideal time to tackle further education.

Mind the big-picture allocations

The preceding points have hit heavily on the importance of allocations of financial capital. But if you have a close relationship with a new graduate, share what you've learned about the biggest allocation of all: your time-on-earth allocation. Do you regret that you spent so much time at work while your kids were growing? Were you so glad that you took time away from your other obligations to be with a sick friend or elderly parent? Are you grateful you took the road less travelled, even if it cost you something in the short run? All of us are trying to balance time spent earning money alongside doing stuff that brings us joy or does good. In the end, the right time-on-earth allocation is incredibly personal and may change over time. The best advice for a new grad on this front may simply be to say that in contrast to investing financial assets, where paying less attention is usually better, the time-on-earth allocation is one that deserves frequent monitoring.