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Retirement can be a wonderful phase of life; and it may last for more than 30 years. That does sound like a long time. This suggests a need for thought and planning to make your retirement great in all respects.

As I write this piece, I have in my mind that you are a person on the verge of, or recently entered into, retirement. Alternatively, you may know someone in that situation: a parent, a friend, or an acquaintance.

Many things happen in crossing the bridge from a traditional life of work into retirement.

Here is something obvious: your salary ceases (although you may continue to work part-time and earn some money). You will probably miss the salary.

But there is so much more that you can miss as you cross that bridge. I have compiled a long list of aspects of a work life that you might miss. Not all of them will apply to you, so I have made a small selection. I hope some of them ring true.

The items on the list have nothing to do with your finances or your health, rather they are connected to your feelings and emotions. Don’t be put off by those two words – feelings and emotions - because, in the end, the list is very practical in nature, as you will see.

For ease of reading, each item on the list will have a section called LOSS and one called GAIN. This will underscore how all of these ‘perceived problems’ can in fact be resolved.
Let’s look at some.

Friendship in the workplace

LOSS. You may miss the Monday morning banter around the coffee machine or water cooler. It’s amazing how many of my retirement coaching clients feel this so deeply. It seems to come down to a sense of communion, of sharing, both with the people and the environment at work. This leads more generally into how you can replace the friendships you made at work.

GAIN. You can make up for this loss. For example, what about renewing some old friendships? You could make an archaeological dig back to your schooldays or review your work life to find people you have fallen out of contact with. Additionally, you can join clubs, take courses, pick up a hobby, all of which can offer you the sociability of others.

Your identity or who you are

LOSS. What about your identity? This is a biggie, so let me explain. When you worked you could easily define what you did each day. Perhaps you had a business card, or a uniform or something else that defined you and made your job recognisable to others.

GAIN. In retirement you have the opportunity for a renewed definition of yourself. Will you be happy with what is called the 3G approach to retirement: golf, gardening and grandparenting? If so, then good for you. If not, then I doubt you’d be satisfied with the identity ‘retired person’. What then? Now we are getting to the essential help that a retirement coach can give. This concept of identity is central to my practice of retirement coaching.

Status and relevance

LOSS. Your work may have given you some status and relevance to others. Post-work loss of status can show up as ‘Relevance Deprivation Syndrome’ or RDS for short. You may feel that suddenly you’re not as important to others as you once were. That can hurt.

GAIN. If RDS looms as a problem, then you could think about getting involved in charitable works of some kind. By engaging in charitable work, you will be important to the people you serve as well as those people you work with. There are lots of those opportunities out there if you search for them.

Expertise and validation

LOSS. This is one of the more surprising aspects of what you might miss from work. Then again, it is obvious. You worked in your job because you were good at it, and because you were good at it, people sought your help, and because they sought your help (and you gave it) you felt a positive vibe of validation. Hence you felt valued.

GAIN. How can you carry this across the bridge into retirement? I would say reflect more deeply about why you were appreciated at work. It may be that fellow workers appreciated your patience or your generosity or some other emotional aspect of your personality. Once you identify this you can dream up an activity based on that emotion for your retired life.

Routine and structure

LOSS. Many retired people take joy in jettisoning the routine and structure that work imposed on them. I believe it’s more complex than that. Most of us crave some level of order in our lives. Would you really want to begin each of your 10,000 days of retirement in complete freedom to decide the order of the day? I don’t think so. The issue at stake here is more about how much say you have in that routine.

GAIN. Once you have established your meaning and purpose in retirement you will end up with a portfolio of activities. Certainly, that is the end point to which I lead my clients. Now you can impose a structure around those activities. Your structure, your routine. Remember you will be your own boss in retirement.

Dr Jon Glass is a Retirement Coach at 64PLUS

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